Real love - a choice to expend energy in an effort to benefit the other person, knowing that his or her life is enriched by your effort.
Monday, April 23, 2012
A Wedding Gift - A Compilation
To Timothy & Serena, Steven & Clara, the soon-to-be-married and the newly wed, here's a compilation of "must-haves" adapted from Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages, specially dedicated to you on your wedding day and the starting of your new chapter together.
Love is an attitude that says, "I am married to you and I choose to look out for your interests."
When your spouse is angry, upset, lashing out words of heat, you should choose to be loving, please do not reciprocate with additional heat but with a soft voice . Receive what he is saying as information about his emotional feelings.
Affirm your spouse in front of others when he or she is present. When you are given public honor for an achievement, be sure to share the credit with your spouse.
Compliment your husband in the presence of his parents or friends. Look out for your husband's strengths and tell him how much you appreciate those strengths.
Go walking with your wife and talk as you walk (Please don't walk ahead of her). Make focused time for your wife.
Experience something together - Be willing to do something with him/her that he/her enjoys and do it with a positive attitude
Your spouse's criticism is an ineffective way of pleading for love.
If your spouse's requests for acts of service come across as nags or put-downs, try writing them in words that would be less offensive to you. Share this revised wording with your spouse.
The "in-love" experience is temporary, sooner or later, we always come down from the high to the real world.
Learn the primary love language of your spouse and choose to speak it. For example, if your spouse's primary love language is receiving gifts, physical presence in the time of crisis is the most powerful gift you can give. If your spouse's primary love language is physical touch, nothing is more important than holding her when she cries.
If you know your own primary love language, please verbalize it to your spouse. Is it (1) Words of Affirmation? (2) Quality Time? (3) Receiving Gifts? (4) Acts of Service? or (5) Physical Touch?
Please don't adopt an attitude of demanding and condemning in your marriage.
Lastly, blessings to you and this song is specially dedicated to you on this joyous occasion.